— Elizabeth Gilbert (via acetroubleshooter)
Anonymous said: Do you have any tips for self love? I'm in recovery and this is the hardest thing for me to do.
Self-love is so crucial, because the absence of it was where your eating disorder developed and grew strong. Mental illnesses feed themselves off of insecurity and self-hatred. Self-love isn’t so hard once you help yourself make a few realizations.
- Your body is the only home you will ever have; you don’t get another. There’s no use is wasting energy or time over cursing your appearance. You might as well start loving your body instead of hating it, since you’ll be your own best friend for the rest of your life.
- Buy yourself some really nice underwear. I’m talking lacy bralettes, pretty thongs, hipster boy shorts, colourful push-up bras, whatever suits your fancy. The one condition is that the underwear makes you feel hot as fuck. Whenever you’re sinking a little low, you can take a peek at your amazing underwear, hidden somewhere beneath your clothes, and instantly remember that you’re a goddess. (I like best the lingerie from American Apparel, then American Eagle, and occasionally Victoria’s Secret)
- Make a playlist of only the happiest, most pump-up, giddy-smiling-gleeful songs on your iPod. I know you’re thinking of a certain song or two right now with those same qualities. We’ve all got a handful of these tunes in our music collections. Then, when you wakeup each morning to get ready - especially on school days - you blast this playlist. Focus on the playlist, not on the mirror. Heck, forget the mirror altogether. Don’t even look at it while you’re dressing; it’s not worth your time. (songs I recommend for feeling like a million bucks: Boom Clap by Charli XCX, The Party’s Crashing Us by Of Montreal, Royals by Lorde, Why’d You Only Call Me When You’re High by Arctic Monkeys, I Get Around by The Beach Boys, Love on Top by Beyoncé, Corinne by The Metronomy, Anything Could Happen by Ellie Goulding, I Love You by Said The Whale, Road To Nowhere by Talking Heads)
- Take a lot of selfies. Selfies are beautiful, unique and fabulous. Take them everyday. It’s not conceited, it’s awesome.
- Do fun things that make you feel cozy with your body. Google a hair mask or face mask recipe, then use it. Paint your fingernails AND toenails on the regular. Wash your face each morning and each night. Brush your hair lovingly. Take pride in how you care for your body.
- This little tidbit is my favourite - have a one-person dance party, preferably in your favourite lingerie (it seems lingerie has a lot to do with self-love). This sounds so cliché, yet it works like a charm. I was having a boring, dull night the other day, however, I somehow began dancing in my underwear in front of the mirror, headphones in, singing along, and I was LOVING IT. It improved my night immensely. I had a lot of fun while feeling beautiful. I recommend having a solo dance party in underwear with music, 12/10.
- Stand in front of a mirror, put your hands on your body gently and tell yourself out loud: “I love my body”. Say it a few times, see how the words feel on your tongue. Do this frequently. Someday you’ll mean it.